…Like it’s 2005

I feel like I’ve been transported back in time right now. My phone mysteriously disappeared last week, so I had to resurrect my old Motorola RAZR… without the QWERTY keyboard. Now, if you know me, you know that I am a texter… I usually have tons of minutes left over at the end of the month, but I almost always go over my text messages, much to the chagrin of my husband! Upon booting up the phone, I was treated to very old pictures and text messages from long ago. Ah, instant time capsule.

In addition to missing my QWERTY keyboard, I’ve been reading Rosalind Wiseman’s Queen Bees & Wannabes which was the basis of the film Mean Girls. I’d been meaning to read this book for a while and now that I am, I am interested in reading her follow-up Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads. Reading this book has made me think about my personal social circles and the roles that I play in them.

I can safely say that belong to two groups and you might be able to say that I could say four groups: kids’ playgroup, YMCA workout group, my La Leche League/Attachment Parenting friends and my church friends. Aside from a very few people, there is no overlap in these groups. I am pretty sure that we have evolved past the classical idea of a clique and by no means are these groups closed to others, but I really wonder if we are inadvertently excluding others from the group? (yes, I know that this is making me sound suspiciously like a Queen Bee “I didn’t make them not like us…” )

The thing about the roles people play in a group is that they are not easily recognizable to you as a person. While I can read Ms. Wiseman’s descriptions of each of the roles that one can have in a Mom Clique, would I readily recognize that I am closer to the Queen Bee than the Floater that I’d rather be? At the same time, would I ever tell someone what her role is?


Talk to me! Are you in a Mom Clique? Do you feel defined by Ms. Wiseman’s descriptions of the roles?

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One response to “…Like it’s 2005

  1. Maman A Droit

    Very interesting. I think I’m somewhere between outcast and floater, because I don’t really feel like I fit in (I’m only 24 and most moms I meet are closer to 35 and seem to already be friends with each other) but then again, everyone seems to get along with me fine and like talking to me. It’s hard to get up the courage to introduce yourself to people who seem to already have an established group of mom friends!

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