I feel like I’ve been transported back in time right now. My phone mysteriously disappeared last week, so I had to resurrect my old Motorola RAZR… without the QWERTY keyboard. Now, if you know me, you know that I am a texter… I usually have tons of minutes left over at the end of the month, but I almost always go over my text messages, much to the chagrin of my husband! Upon booting up the phone, I was treated to very old pictures and text messages from long ago. Ah, instant time capsule.
In addition to missing my QWERTY keyboard, I’ve been reading Rosalind Wiseman’s Queen Bees & Wannabes which was the basis of the film Mean Girls. I’d been meaning to read this book for a while and now that I am, I am interested in reading her follow-up Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads. Reading this book has made me think about my personal social circles and the roles that I play in them.
I can safely say that belong to two groups and you might be able to say that I could say four groups: kids’ playgroup, YMCA workout group, my La Leche League/Attachment Parenting friends and my church friends. Aside from a very few people, there is no overlap in these groups. I am pretty sure that we have evolved past the classical idea of a clique and by no means are these groups closed to others, but I really wonder if we are inadvertently excluding others from the group? (yes, I know that this is making me sound suspiciously like a Queen Bee “I didn’t make them not like us…” )
The thing about the roles people play in a group is that they are not easily recognizable to you as a person. While I can read Ms. Wiseman’s descriptions of each of the roles that one can have in a Mom Clique, would I readily recognize that I am closer to the Queen Bee than the Floater that I’d rather be? At the same time, would I ever tell someone what her role is?
Talk to me! Are you in a Mom Clique? Do you feel defined by Ms. Wiseman’s descriptions of the roles?
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