Seven Quick Takes Friday (Vol. 14)


This week I did something that I have been meaning to do for the last 7 years… I joined the Junior League! Now, before you get an image in your head of women with tea sandwiches and pearls, it’s nothing like that. The women of my class are made up of professional women, SAHMs, WAHMs, and recent college grads all linked with the desire to serve their community. Needless to say, I am excited. Plus kids (and dogs) are welcome at any and all meetings! The dogs thing kind of threw me, but as our Provisional Chair said… It’s California!


The funny thing about my recent weeks of getting involved with organizations is, according to this (humorous!) website, I hold certain characteristics associated with snobby moms. Thoughts?


This week at story time at LBS, there was an elementary school class listening to the story. The looked to be about kindergarten age and so I asked the teacher what school they where from. (Little back story: I found out earlier in the week that I *need* to be looking at schools NOW for The Bear, if we are planning on sending her. EEK!) Turns out they were from what would be our neighborhood school and it’s a school that specializes in the arts. They bring in amateur and professional artists and musicians for all of the classes, and beginning in 2nd grade vocal or instrumental lessons begin.


For me, the instrument lessons are a definite plus, especially since we are still thinking about getting The Bear started in Violin lessons. Now, before you start thinking that I am going to go all Tiger Mother on my girls, I value getting them started in lessons as soon as they can, just to get the foundation laid. I started my Violin lessons when I was in elementary school (I think it was 1st Grade) which lead to developing an ear for music and fostering the creative side that tends to get squashed.


Joy of Joys! We picked the SwaggerWagon up from the body shop this week. It’s so great having it back and I am starting to lose my nervousness when driving… not by much, but it is easing. I am not sure that it will ever go away, nor do I think that I want to lose it. I mean, there has to be something going for being a defensive driver. But there is a difference between defensive and fearful.


This random thought popped into my head tonight: Isn’t it beautiful that the word “Thank You” in Romance languages tend to root in the words “grace” and “mercy?” (Gracias, Grazie,Merci) Germanic languages… not so much.


Milwaukee, Wisconsin (my hometown) has unveiled another ad campaign to help reduce the level of infant mortality in the city. Instead of addressing all of the factors involved, or even the biggest factor (ONLY consider co-sleeping if all safety requirements are met including EXCLUSIVE BREASTFEEDING,) they are taking the sensational approach… just short of throwing the baby out with the bathwater. And no, your eyes are not deceiving you… that’s a butchers’ knife with the baby. At least the United Way of Milwaukee is trying to *gasp* EDUCATE?!?! (and, sadly, most of the deaths were in poor, minority families and ALL of the deaths involved the infant being formula fed. This is not an anti-formula statement, but if you are going to formula-feed you shouldn’t co-sleep (see page 12 of the PDF.) Plus you shouldn’t be under the influence either. That counts for breastfeeding moms as well.) But I can see the flip side of what Milwaukee is doing… they have an public health epidemic going on and they are trying to keep infants alive. Read my previous thoughts on this topic here.

ETA: I would like to clarify that Milwaukee County is using the term “co-sleeping” when “bed-sharing” is more accurate.

ETA: More links to current breastfeeding/ formula-feeding/ safe sleep research.


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4 responses to “Seven Quick Takes Friday (Vol. 14)

  1. Nina

    Call me a “snob mom” I guess! I could identify with a few ones on that list ๐Ÿ™‚

    Question: Why do you say you can’t co-sleep if you are formula feeding??

    • Great question Nina!

      The way Milwaukee County is using the term “co-sleeping” is erroneous and would better be described as “bed-sharing.” Co-sleeping (in a side car, or in a pack-in-play/ bassinet in the parents’ room) is not what they are campaigning against. Formula feeding dyads should avoid bed-sharing because the mother and baby do not sync up, so to speak, during sleep as the breastfeeding pair does. Researchers have found that mothers who BF their infants and then bed-share actually sync up sleep/ wake cycles, coordinate breathing and the mothers protect the infant from overlaying (overlying?) by adopting a protective sleeping stance. With that said, however, all of that goes out the window if the parent has been drinking or is under the influence of other drugs.

      Here’s the link for the abstract of the article written by Dr. McKenna in the American Journal of Physical Anthropology in 2007.

  2. Tridentine Wife

    I have to politely disagree with your statement that if a mother formula feeds her infant, she can’t co-sleep. All three of my children (twins: 20 months and a daughter 7 months) were formula fed and I co-slept with them for the first four months of their life. Also not being able to breastfeed was not my choice, but since I suffer from PCOS and low milk supply, that’s the way it was. I think that any mother who cannot hear her child waking up when co-sleeping because their child is formula fed is ridiculous. I do agree that parents under the influence should not co-sleep.

    Anyway just found your blog and I love that you’re a black woman and a Catholic, not too many of us out there ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Thanks for reading and commenting!! One of my blog rules is that dissent is very much welcomed as long as it is done politely. ๐Ÿ™‚

      I did clarify in another comment that there is a stark difference between co-sleeping and bed-sharing, but the research done by Dr. McKenna does lean heavily toward not bed-sharing when formula feeding. But that’s is also to say that tragedies can happen in every family situation, babies die in cribs and out of cribs, we can’t control that, but what ever choice one makes as a parent be sure of all of the pros and cons.

      I am sorry to hear of your struggle with PCOS! I’ve not experienced it, but I do understand the challenges.

      It’s always great to meet a fellow Black Catholic Wife/ Moms as well!

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